A Self Confidence Rampage

Dulcie Mativo
4 min readJun 23, 2022

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A Message To Anyone Doubting Themselves

Photo by Marek Piwnicki on Unsplash

You are everything you need to be

You exist at this point in time for a very specific reason

There’s something this world needs that only you can provide. Everything that you are is divinely put together to aid you in fulfilling that purpose. Nothing is a mistake. Every strength and imperfection, desire and fear, experience and opportunity cost; is so unique to you and what you’re here to accomplish.

Comparison is of no use to you

If you really think about it, anytime you compare yourself to someone else you always measure up your weaknesses to their strengths. How is that even fair to yourself? Wouldn’t it make more sense to compare your strengths? And when you do that you’ll see that there is no point in the comparison in any case. They are strong in some ways, you are strong in some ways. You’re all strong. So why compare to begin with? Your strengths don’t take away from their strengths, and their strengths definitely don’t take away from yours.

You’re not meant to be good at everything

Embrace your weaknesses and imperfections. Don’t beat yourself up about them because you don’t need to be good at everything. That’s why there are so many of us on earth, for each of us to be good at something and therefore collectively good at everything.

You only need to be your best self

You are everything you need to be. You don’t have to be better than anyone, you only have to be your best self. Lean in to your strengths. Magnify them. Make the best of them. Use them to their fullest capacity. They are yours for a reason. They are yours because you are the only one that can make use of them in the way that they need to be used.

You can trust yourself

Don’t believe everything you’re told

People will have opinions of who you are, what you do, and what you should do. The world will continue to flood you with images of who you should be and how you should live your life. You don’t need me to tell you that you shouldn’t buy into it mindlessly. You already know.

You’ve followed everything you’ve been told. For so long you’ve ignored the voice in your spirit that tells you to follow a different path, that it’s barely a whisper now. It’s understandable too, there’s so much physical evidence of results when you follow the ways of the world. But where has that gotten you? Where has following the status quo led to? It’s given you exactly what it said it would, but is that what you really want? If it is, great. But if it isn’t, if there’s a part of you that feels that there’s so much more to life than following the masses; trust it.

What you intuitively want matters more than what the world thinks you should want

It’s time to come to terms with the person that you are. Time to let go of the persona you’ve built based on what you’ve been told you should be. To stand in the truth of who you are. To fall in love with the person that you are. To fall in love with your desires.

It’s time to give yourself some credit. To trust that you know what’s best for you. To listen to your spirit when it tells you to do something different than what the world is telling you to do. To trust that you can create and manifest everything that you want. To trust that it will lead to your best life yet.

You have the right to design your life the way you see fit

You can design your own life

Anyone that tells you how you should live your life is saying it based on either how they lived theirs or how they wished they lived it. This can inform how you live your life, but it should never dictate it. This is your life. And you have every right to design it as you see fit. Everything that you want is valid. Even if you’ve never seen it done before, it’s valid and can be manifested. Not that it’s going to be easy, but it is valid and possible.

Take your time

How can you expect yourself to have it all figured out when you don’t take the time to figure it out? You need to give yourself time to figure it out. To figure out who you want to be, how you want to show up in the world, what you want to experience, what your purpose is, what your career will be, how you want to work, where you want to live, the type of relationships you want to have, the people you want to let into your life, and so on. That is a lot to figure out. Especially when you have to sort through everything that has been thrown at you without your permission. So take the time and don’t let anyone or anything rush you.

Not everything is easy, but anything is possible when you believe. Some of these concepts will not stick immediately, especially if you’ve been practicing a lot of the opposite. So give yourself time to catch up. You are everything you need to be and everything you desire is within reach.

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Dulcie Mativo
Dulcie Mativo

Written by Dulcie Mativo

I write on mental wellness and self-improvement in hopes that my words make you feel seen, safe, and heard. Available for writing work.

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